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Check your attitude: part 2

My last blog post was long, so I’ll try to make this one more concise. The main thing I’m wondering here is whether, if you’re a person who “hates” his or her job, you took a hard, clear-eyed look at the questions I posed in my last post and thought about them in relation to your work.

The exercise I described last time is not designed to do the following:

  1. Get you to resign yourself to a boring, life-draining job to which you are just not suited;
  2. Make you think you must be a lazy, disagreeable employee;
  3. Encourage you to tolerate badly-behaved colleagues.

It’s entirely possible that, upon completing and reflecting upon the kinds of questions I’ve encouraged you to ask about your work, you may be more certain than ever that you really do hate your job. The point of exercises like the one I’ve described is to get us to focus on our jobs in detail–our colleagues, the corporate culture and atmosphere in our offices, the substance of our work, and what we bring to the table. Once we’ve done this, we stand a much better chance of looking at our current employment situations more clearly and honestly and getting much, much more out of them. As well, we will be better equipped to plan a move to another job that actually will make us happier.

Because simply moving from one situation to another brings no guarantee that our level of contentment will rise–not if we haven’t done some serious examining of what we actually want out of work and what we’re actually willing to give to it.

If what we think we want is for work to fulfil us completely as human beings, provide us with all the affirmation, support, and inspiration that we could ever need, and do so with little effort on our part, then let’s all stop here. Because this attitude is a source of untold misery in the work world today.

Are you thinking, “Well, of course! Who would think that way? Who’d place such burdens on the narrow shoulders of a job???” If you are thinking this, step back because it’s incredible how insidious this attitude is. It’s astounding how many of us, if we probe just a little, will realise that not only do we know relatively little about how we really feel about our jobs (hence the exercise in the previous post), but we also know relatively little about what our jobs really, honestly should be doing for us.

Some people do describe their jobs as “fulfilling”. Some people do feel affirmed and inspired by their jobs. And some people do say, “I enjoy my work so much, I can hardly believe I get paid to do it.” And that’s in large part because those people know what role they can expect their jobs to play in their lives–and they see to it that they get the most out of that.

So how do we get from point A to point B? From interrogating ourselves a little bit about our jobs to having the work-life we really want? We’ll talk more about that in next week’s post. In the meantime, if you want to discuss this further with someone who can help you with the process, give Agile Centre a call or drop us a line.

For the next article in this series on work-life balance, check out Balancing Acts

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